As a wife, mother, grandmother and friend, I find I often get overly involved in the concerns of others. I find myself rehearsing in my own head the solutions I see for each problem. God repeatedly – and gently – reminds me that I cannot live someone else’s life. I need to stop that endless chatter in my head. I need silence more than I need to fix other people’s problems.
I love this quote from Frederick Buechner. It is freeing.
“Stop trying to protect, to rescue, to judge, to manage the lives around you . . . remember that the lives of others are not your business. They are their business. They are God’s business . . . even your own life is not your business. It also is God’s business. Leave it to God. It is an astonishing thought. It can become a life-transforming thought . . . unclench the fists of your spirit and take it easy . . . What deadens us most to God’s presence within us, I think, is the inner dialogue that we are continuously engaged in with ourselves, the endless chatter of human thought. I suspect that there is nothing more crucial to true spiritual comfort . . . than being able from time to time to stop that chatter . . . ” (From Telling Secrets)