How Healing Happens – Part Two

Posted on: March 9th, 2015 by Kay Swatkowski

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Healing does happen. If you have ever experienced a major trauma or loss, you know that it does. Sometimes incompletely or with scars, but some healing always takes place over time.

Are there ways to promote healing? What kinds of things can we do to make sure that the pain does not become chronic or infected?

First, we must always remember it is a process. Wherever you find yourself today on the emotional healing path, it is important that you be there.  Experiencing the pain and the sadness will actually allow you to move on more quickly.  Full and early grieving is always the best.

But, what do we do while this is going on.  Well, we PROCESS the experience. We tell our story to someone we trust. We tell it once, twice or thirty times.  And in the telling, we are cleansing the wound.

It does no good to hide pain or pretend that it isn’t there. Emotional pain is so powerful that it will come out in one way or another. Either we will express it in an appropriate setting with the right people or we will erupt like a volcano when we least expect it.  One way is healthy. The other way is damaging.

This is what it means to process. It is sharing with an end result in mind. We want to cleanse the wound and provide opportunity for others to bring words of healing.

Too often, we say we are processing life events and rather than wanting the process to move us on, we simply get stuck. We vent about the same issue again and again without knowing what we want in the end.

A process always has an end in mind.  If we are going through the process of selling our home, we clean it out, get rid of stuff and pack up what is helpful and meaningful and that we want to keep. But, the goal is clear. To move on to something that is more suited to us.

One of the first steps in the process of healing is finding someone with whom we can share our grief and sadness and we can depend upon to be patient and caring.  Then, with the end result in mind, we begin to tell our  story. As they listen, we will feel loved and the process of healing will begin.

 




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